By Nancy Greenlee, MAPC, LCPC
“I am hurt and I’m devastated. Being married to my husband is like doing yoga on one leg,” said a recent workshop participant. “I’m trying to hold things together, but I keep crashing down.”
She made an excellent analogy of what sexual betrayal, relapse, and lack of recovery can be like for the partner of a sex addict. She is holding the pose (the relationship) as best as she can in her codependent state, but in yoga, two functioning legs, i.e., two healthy partners, are needed to balance, steady and solidify the pose.
The partner who has an active sex addiction cannot be that supportive leg. And, the codependent could use some recovery muscle as well. In fact, at times, it may seem as if neither partner has a leg to stand on!
Our workshop, Healing Intimate Treason for Partners of Sex Addicts, doesn’t teach yoga at all. However, through a number of therapeutic modalities, we do strive to meet balanced objectives such as providing steady support and encouragement for releasing grief, shame, and fear.
We also provide an opportunity for partners to connect the dots between childhood experiences and possible reactions to betrayal trauma. In addition, we guide activities that invite the participants to see their relationship in a new light.
At the end of the week, participants are usually feeling much different about themselves and about their partners. With a new-found awareness of healthier boundaries and a sense of direction for the next phase of their recovery, our participants often report that they feel emotionally stronger, clearer about their intentions, and prepared to continue their recovery with a new, healthy game plan.
Healing Intimate Treason workshop isn’t yoga, but attending the workshop can provide similar benefits: balance, renewal, and affirmative self-awareness.
For more information about the workshop call us at 855-333-6076 or send us an email. Our friendly workshop specialists are happy to answer any questions you may have.